1. Talk to God
The first thing to do is simply to talk to God. Admit to him that you have rebelled against him and deserve punishment, and ask him for forgiveness on the basis of Jesus’ death in your place. Ask God to help you change from being a rebel to being someone who lives with Jesus as their ruler. You could pray something like this:
Dear God,
I know that I am not worthy to be accepted by you. I don’t deserve your gift of eternal life. I am guilty of rebelling against you and ignoring you. I’m sorry, and I need your forgiveness.
Thank you for sending your Son to die for me so that I may be forgiven. Thank you that he rose from the dead to give me new life.
Please forgive me and change me, so that I may live with Jesus as my ruler. Amen.
2. Submit to Jesus
The second step follows naturally on from the first. Having prayed the sort of prayer above, you will want to start putting it into practice—that is, actually living with Jesus as your ruler.
There will be all kinds of areas in your life that need to change. There will be old rebellious habits to get rid of (like greed, anger, selfishness, and so on), and some new God-honoring ones to take on (like generosity, kindness, love, and patience).
This second step will go on for the rest of your life, but God will be with you all the way. He’ll keep speaking to you through your reading of his word, the Bible; he’ll keep listening to you and helping you as you pray to him; he’ll empower you by his Spirit, who lives within you, to change and to live his way; and he’ll provide other Christians to encourage you along the way as you meet with them regularly.
The second step, then, is to submit to Jesus and start living with him as your ruler.
3. Trust Jesus
The third step is also ongoing. You need to keep putting your trust in the right place.
It’s only because of Jesus (and his death and resurrection) that you can be forgiven and put right with God. You’ll need to keep coming back to this again and again, because as you start to live God’s new way, you will still fail and do the wrong thing. We all do. We all need to keep looking to the death of Jesus on the cross as the only grounds for our forgiveness.
We must never stop relying on him—and him alone—as the means by which we are forgiven and given eternal life.
If you take these steps, you can be assured that God has indeed forgiven you and given you a whole new life.
But if you have not yet responded to God in this way, you can be equally assured that you remain under his judgment.
There is a fork in the road. There are only two ways to live. It’s the choice we all face.